Arguments are not competitions.
Arguments are not to be competitions to see who can yell the loudest or push their point the most. There is never actually a "winner." Instead, feelings often get hurt and one person finally concedes to the other because they're tired of it. The purpose of an argument (or discussion if you prefer a calmer term) should be to express your own feelings so your spouse may understand more about you. They will never understand WHY you feel that way, but they'll at least understand more of what's important to you.
So what's your take on arguments? What do you seem to argue about the most?
For more advice, check out my article on Yahoo Voices about How to Argue Without Damaging Your Relationhips.