Yes, I'm a pastor's wife, but I suspect not all of my readers are Christian. I won't hold back on my beliefs, but I also won't shove religion at you. I try not to accept things just because they're told to me but read and research in order to make up my own mind. You'll find a random mix of stuff here, depending on what interests me at the moment. I like to read others' opinions, whether they agree with me or not, which means I love comments on my posts!

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

"You'll be going to more funerals"

When I married a pastor, I was told I'd be going to a lot more funerals. DH would be officiating or just need to attend as support for a church member or their family. Before marriage, I had attended approximately 1 funeral a year. Since the wedding, I've been to 5 funerals in 5 each month. But it's all been for my family or my friends' families. 2 uncles, 1 aunt, and 2 parents of best friends. When I was told I'd be going to more funerals, it never crossed my mind that it would be for people I'm close to.
DH claims it gets easier. He's been to so many funerals that it barely phases him now. But I wonder if that's just because he's a man. Is it usually different emotionally for a woman? I went to a funeral with him pre-marriage and teared up over a man I didn't know.

1 comment:

Esthermay said...

I remember one Saturday last May:
DH did a funeral at 10:00 a.m. We went to two H.S. Graduation Open Houses over lunch. DH performed a Wedding at 2:00 p.m. We did a college graduation open house and then sat with a mourning widow (age 38) at the visitation at the funeral home. Next day another funeral after church.

I felt very much like a professional mourner/actor/party guest. It's hard to turn the emotions off/on sometimes.

Don't ever feel bad about showing emotions. I've often wished it HAD NOT gotten easier.


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